The Frustrations of 'Youth'

Today I went for an interview. At a college. And was mistaken for a student on 3 occasions, including by one of the panel. I was dressed in business type clothes and had a visitors badge around my neck. Gaaaaaaaah.
 One of the people in question I was trying to ask where the reception was. He was speaking to another member of staff when I approached, he put his hand up to me wihtout actually looking at me and said 'wait'.  He then continued to talk for a good 60 seconds without any further reference to the fact I was still waiting for help. When I was finally given permission to speak he asked if I was a prospective student.  I could hardly even answer I was that shocked by his behaviour.  But when I said no, I wasn't a student, he didn't even look embarrassed.
Then another member of staff agreed to show me where reception was.  She had also mistaken me for a student and proceeded to tell me that I should maybe try to make myself look older as I might have more chance of getting the job!?!? There are no words.  Oh go on, i'll bite.. Actually, love,  I'm academically qualified for the job I'm being interviewed for and have a lots of experience in that field.  Why do I need to look older? If I approached you and said "aww it's a shame you look like an old bat.  Maybe you should have had some botox before you came, you might have had more chance of getting the job", that wouldn't have gone down so well, would it.

Being mistaken for a teenager is something that happens I'd say at least once a week and it gets right on my goat. Especially while I've been planning my wedding, suppliers are always surprised that I'm the bride and I feel that I don't get taken seriously. Honestly, I don't think I even look that young and I always wear make up. When I went to try on wedding dresses a couple of weeks ago the lady was shocked I was the bride and said I looked about 18/19. I'm 25.  People seem to direct answers to my Fiance or mum as well, even if it's me who asked the question.

I have a professional job and I behave in a professional manner and yet I feel patronised and spoken down to when I meet people for the first time. 

I went to a case conference this week on behalf of one of my students, with the police, social services and all manner of different agencies were there. When I arrived I was mistaken for the girl herself, despite having a staff badge around my neck! And I'm not far off 10 years older than her.  Come oooooon!!!

I assume people don't do it on purpose, perhaps I look quite young and I'm only 5'1, I just wish people would use their brains a little. Preferably if they do make the mistake then not trying to make it into a massive LOL at my expense would be super too.

It's just so flipping frustrating and it's difficult to be taken seriously professionally when everyone's like aww look at the little 18 year old making suggestions, bless! 

I guess in the grand scheme of things there are worse things in the world but it is annoying when it's something you have no control over.

My response to these idiots?  Polite but unamused. Every time.

Have any of you experienced this kind of thing? How do you react in these situations?

Hope you enjoyed reading and didn't mind my rant too much :)

Suzy
xx

Tag: The Liebster Award!

Today's blog post is going to be a little different - I was nominated by LouisaLoves217 for the Liebster award this week so I now get to do my own post and nominate some more new bloggers.

  In case like me you've never heard of it, the Liebster award is an award given to new and up and coming bloggers with small followings (less than about 200). It helps new bloggers connect with each other, and find each other! I'm led to believe that Liebster means Dearest/loving in German– which I can't confirm as all I can remember from my 3 years of High School German is how to say 'I am 12 years old' and 'I live with my family in a semi detached house', which wasn't even accurate.. Time well spent I reckon..!

Anyway, thanks to LouisaLoves217 for her nomination and definitely go and read & follow her wonderful blog!

The rules…

So there are 6 rules for this award and they are as follows:

1. Link back to the wonderful person that nominated you
2. List 11 facts about yourself (it’s optional, but makes it more interesting  )
3. Answer the 11 questions given to you by the person who nominated you for the award.
4. Nominate 11 blogs/bloggers who themselves have 200 or less followers.
5. Think up 11 different questions for the people you are nominating to answer.
6. Then you need to notify your nominees so that they know and can answer and join in!

So… 11 facts about me!

1. I am 25 and from Manchester
2. I studied Law at university and then qualified as a law teacher in 2010
3. My favourite number is 18 - my birthday, house number and we're getting married on the 18th July. I also hate odd numbers. No particular reason, just can't abide them!
4. My boyfriend proposed to me on Boxing Day 2012 in the middle of a football pitch, which was a complete shock!
5. I met my best friend the day we moved into uni almost 7 years ago, we lived in neighbouring rooms for all 3 years and we still text constantly. We have the same brain and constantly do the saw thing at the same time without realising!
6. One of my favourite things to do is to write lists.. Sometimes I include things in a list that i've already done just so I can tick them..My desk at work is completely covered in post-it notes and I reckon I go through a packet of them every month!
7. I really really want to travel across America  and I want to go to Hawaii, fingers crossed we can afford it for honeymoon!
8. I'm hoping to train in make up artistry over the next few years and I'd love to have a sideline in doing wedding make up until I can afford to give up teaching!
9. I love Clinique high impact curling mascara and it will take some kind of magical alien created mascara to sway me.
10. I am obsessed with Caroline Hirons and my family are consequently sick of hearing about salicylic acid and the evils of muslin cloths and make-up wipes.
11. I can't leave the house without a minimum of mascara. This is non negotiable, probably even in an emergency.
12. I can't stop myself from buying Clinique when it's on bonus time even though I never use 90% of the contents of the free gift

Now the 11 questioned from LouisaLoves217:

1. How did you come up with your blog name?

My Fiancé :)

2. Who inspires you most?

I have no idea..is that terrible?!

 3. What are you most proud of so far in your life?

Forcing myself to finish my PGCE.  Worst 9 months of my life, but it was worth it in the end :)

4. What is your No. 1 beauty product and why?

As mentioned above, my Clinique High Impact Curling Mascara, I just love it, it doesn't flake, it makes my lashes long and it lasts for ages without drying out.

5. What product would you recommend most highly?

Paula's Choice BHA - amazing for unclogging pores and it lasts for ages!

6. What 3 famous people, dead or alive, would you invite to a dinner party and why? 

God, Caroline Hirons and Paula Begoun from Paula's Choice - I reckon between the 4 of us we could come up with a recipe for perfect skin for me ;)

 7.What film/tv character are you most like? 

8. How do you wind down?

I sit on the sofa and paint my nails whilst watching say yes to the dress on youtube.

If its been an extremely bad day then a face mask and a bath with candles.

9. What is your signature scent? Daisy by Marc Jacobs at the moment. 

10. What top tip would you give to any new bloggers?

Ha, I hardly know myself yet! I guess don't be afraid to ask for help and being friendly is good. Also don't talk in clichés, no one likes a clone :)

 11. If you had a theme song to your life, what would it be?

Mr Brightside. If the DJ at my wedding doesn't play it I will throw the biggest bridezilla strop ever seen!

Okay so now for the blogs I am nominating! We have….

 

Crazy Blonde Gal
Life's a Cup of Tea
Darryll's Beauty Blog
Introducing AK
Ash Horton

Lunar Belle Beauty

Bianca Spindler

Cher-Couture

Hester Lierre
Juyey Rambles

Mere Mai


My questions to you:

1) How & why did you get into blogging?
2) What do you do in the real world?
3) If you could only use one make up product for the rest of your life, which would you chose?
4) Who is your favourite you-tuber?
5) How do you choose what to blog about?
6) Where in the world would  you  most like to go shopping, and why?
7) What is your all-time favourite book?
8) What's the best advice you've ever been given?
9) What is the biggest fashion mistake you've made
10) If you won the lottery what would your first purchase be?
11) What's the worst film you've ever watched?

 

Thanks if you persevered through this exceptionally long post :)

 

Suzy x